Finding Love and All Its Quirks, Even If 2,654 Miles Away

During the ceremony, Mr. Harris read a number of emails from friends, “filling the space with the wishes of our communities,” Ms. Lenz said.

“The pandemic has been exhausting in every way, and watching the two of them find each other, despite all the obstacles, both real and ridiculous, has brought me such delight, and delight to everyone I’ve told about them,” said Robyn Rime, one of Mr. Paskey’s close friends. “They’ve managed to transcend what’s going on in the world.”

When April 3, 2021

Where The Sea Ranch Chapel, Sea Ranch, Calif.

The Attire Nearly every clothing item was handmade by artisans, mostly in Europe, except for Mr. Paskey’s Utilikilt, which he wore with a Guatemalan fabric vest made by a woman in Germany, and a blouse. Their boots were handmade in Greece; hers were turquoise with a purple stripe; his were purple with a turquoise stripe. (Ms. Lenz’s hair is often dyed purple and turquoise, for the wedding it was even more brilliantly hued.) The bride also wore a fairy crown made by an artisan in Spain, adorned with antlers made on a 3-D printer that represented the white stag they saw together, with a white felt coat with purple accents.

The Promises Among the things they said in their vows were to: “cherish and delight in your spirit, and ask only that you be your authentic self; to witness, with total acceptance, the radiant, imperfect beauty of that self, of who you have been, and who you are today, and who you will become; and to be radically honest with you, with myself, and with others and to hear the truth you tell me.”

The Reception and After The following day, a few family members and friends of Ms. Lenz’s gave the newlyweds a surprise outdoor brunch outside at the Esherick Mini-Mod, a cabin at the Sea Ranch. On April 5, the couple left California — this time driving together — for Buffalo, where they now live.