Swimming Upstream in Heels and Skinny Pants

My daughter was born at the beginning of the pandemic — March 17, 2020. Family soon meant something completely different to us. Survival felt more real to us than it ever had. We hunkered down and be...

Self Sufficiency Is Overrated

My mother’s larger support system had kicked in by then. One of her closest friends from childhood had arrived to relieve us, and another was clamoring to swap in. We were glad. I was exhausted. Beco...

Why Are There So Many Premature Births in America?

I was moved this week by Maria Cramer’s story of a baby born at 21 weeks who defied the odds, and now holds the Guinness World Record for the “most premature infant to live to a first birthday.” Curt...

How to Talk to Kids About Death and Loss

In September, on one of the first days that felt like fall, we drove from our house in Rhode Island to my father’s house in Massachusetts to spend the weekend. It is still hard for me to write or say...

What if Your Kids Never Let You Sleep Again?

For about six months of this year, we had a glorious period when no child darkened our door at 3 a.m. But last month, for reasons obscure to me and my husband, either one or both of our kids started ...

How to Teach a Little Girl to Love Her Brown Skin

My wife, Sarah, is a Pakistani American who played varsity tennis in the Florida heat, but she was always told by relatives, “Don’t play in the sun too long, or you’ll get too dark.” She resisted the...